College friendships
So on the gruesome 4 hour drive home from Big Bear, my cousin asked an interesting question. He asked my other cousin, and I if we feel like we have made life long friends from our time in college.
One is currently going to a community college and said that he does not feel like he has connected with anyone yet. Being a recent high school graduate, he spoke about how him and his high school friends are really close but understands that some things change with time.
The second currently in his 2nd year at CSUF also stated that he did not feel that he had made any close friends. While he does commute and has a girlfriend, he says he’s only seen college as an education so far.
After hearing them say that, I realized how lucky I am to have met the people that I have. I tried explaining to them that maybe they need to branch out and join organizations or such. But mid-explanation I realized that it is not about how or what you join. Gaining close friends come from the willingness to open yourself up to others and allow for that connection.
Both of them have girlfriends and rarely stay on campus before heading home to spend quality time with the girl. While that’s fine, I feel like by presenting this question they realize that they are missing out on an important college experience. Because it’s true, most high school friendships do not last that long. Occasionally you have a small group of friends that you stay close with as life goes on but I think that those life-long friends are made in college. College, a place where those friends and you go through hardships of studying all night, understand each others situations, and work side by side to achieve your career goals.
They say networking is key in landing a good job. Well what better place to start networking than in college? Amongst your peers are the future doctors, engineers, business leaders, lawyers and so much more.
I feel that the friends that you make in college are the ones that really stick with you. When my cousin said he doesn’t feel like he needs more friends than the best group of friends he made in high school I actually asked him if he regarded them all as close friends. I told him that a close friend isn’t someone you party with, hang out with, because anyone could be that. A close friend is someone that you trust and talk to when you are at your lowest.
By the end of our conversation they both said that it seems like I have really enjoyed/learned from my time in college. It was then that I realized how lucky I have been. Being in such a good school, meeting such great people and being able to share my experience/wisdom with my younger cousins.
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